Freedom and the Weight of Being
Sebastian Junger’s book Freedom explores the tension between autonomy and belonging, survival and meaning. From an existential therapy lens, it reveals how true freedom demands responsibility, courage, and connection.
Unblurring the Lines: From Enmeshment to Healthy Family Closeness
As a couples therapist, one of the most common and subtle forms of relationship dysfunction I encounter is enmeshment. It is often mistaken for closeness or deep family loyalty, but Dr. Patricia Love, through her work on families and relationships has clearly illuminated the difference between enmeshment and healthy family belonging.
Mending Your Relationship Ruptures with the Feedback Wheel
Conflict happens, but repair is the key to lasting love. As a relationship psychologist, I recommend Jane Hurley's Feedback Wheel to heal disconnection.
The Gift of Being Real: Winnicott's Enduring Legacy
As psychotherapists, our work is fundamentally relational. We strive to create conditions where deep, lasting personal change can occur in how we relate to others, and ourselves. DW Winnicott’s significant contribution to psychology include highlighting the importance of early relationships, and introducing concepts such as the ‘holding environment’, The ‘Good-Enough’ mother, and the ‘True and False Self’.
Teamwork Makes the Marriage Work
Adlerian therapist Rudolf Dreikurs taught that marriage isn't a battle for control, but a cooperative effort between equals.
Is Your Mind Blocking Your Reality?
Ever wonder why you avoid talking about a difficult subject or overreact to a simple comment? That's your mind activating a psychological defence mechanism. This is your mind trying to reduce anxiety, guilt, and emotional pain. Defences like denial, projection, and sublimation are the mental processes we use to manage overwhelming emotional states and maintain stability.
Weathering Life's Storms: How can we maintain balance?
Your life can be said to be comprised of multiple compartments, such as family, friends, health, work, hobbies, and personal growth. Allowing one problem to consume your entire focus can undermine your overall stability. To maintain your balance and stability, you must intentionally focus on, protect and connect with all your healthy compartments.
The Secret Burden: Dyslexia, Shame, and Self-Acceptance
Dyslexia is essentially a neurodevelopmental difference, not a measure of intelligence or character, yet for most who have dyslexia, their struggles in our school system feel like personal failure.
Morita Therapy: An Introduction
Morita Therapy is a Japanese form of psychotherapy developed by psychiatrist Shoma Morita, which was influenced by Zen Buddhism. Its central premise is that suffering is perpetuated by the struggle to control or eliminate unpleasant feelings.
Harry Stack Sullivan and the Therapy of Connection
Harry Stack Sullivan is one of the forgotten figures in 20th century psychology, less mythologised than Freud, Jung, and Rogers. Yet Sullivan’s ideas and techniques remain relevant in today’s world of fractured relationships, digital isolation, and rising anxiety and depression.
The Curious Affliction of the Fragmented Mind
Are we witnessing a genuine epidemiological rise in a neurodevelopmental disorder, or a neurological casualty of our hyper-stimulated culture?
The first question is not “Why the addiction?” but “Why the pain?”
The first question is not “Why the addiction?” but “Why the pain?”
Therapy can help you heal
"To survive, animals must avoid predators; humans must avoid loss of relationships"
Jon Frederickson
Control Battle
Neil Brown, a psychotherapist who has worked extensively as a family therapist, has described the pattern of conflict that develops between parents and teenagers as a 'Control Battle'.
Normal People
“The only normal people are the ones you don't know very well.” - Alfred Adler