Observing Without Evaluating: A Quiet Skill That Transforms Relationships

In close relationships, conflict often escalates not because of what happened, but because of the meaning we attach to it. Observing without evaluating is a practice taught by Marshall Rosenberg, who helps couples describe concrete behaviours without criticism or blame. In couples therapy, this skill reduces defensiveness, increases emotional safety, and opens space for curiosity and connection. By focusing on observable events rather than judgments, partners can address real issues without putting each other on trial.

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