Why We Sometimes Wait to Seek Therapy
“Change almost never fails because it's too early. It almost always fails because it's too late.”
Seth Godin
In therapy, I often hear clients reflect on timing.
Some share that they wished they had begun two months earlier. Others say a year. Some speak about decades passing before they felt ready. These reflections are common and very human.
Why We Hesitate
People rarely wait because they don’t care about themselves. More often, hesitation comes from a place of protection. There are days when:
The idea of seeking help feels frightening.
Admitting vulnerability seems too confronting.
Showing others our pain feels unsafe.
Past experiences of reaching out left wounds that make trying again difficult.
A belief that a better life might not be possible or deserved.
None of these reasons are failures. They are understandable responses shaped by experience, emotion, and circumstance.
The Complexity of Timing
The timing of change is rarely straightforward. Sometimes life nudges us forward quickly; other times we need space, time, or courage to grow at our own pace. For many people, the moment they finally reach out comes when the inner struggle becomes too heavy to carry alone, and even then, it can feel uncertain and unsafe.
Seth Godin’s quote reminds us of the balance between waiting for readiness and recognising when waiting no longer serves us.
If You’re Considering Therapy
If a part of you is contemplating therapy, that curiosity itself matters. You don’t need to feel certain or fully prepared. Many people begin with questions, doubts, or mixed feelings, and therapy becomes a place to explore those concerns over time.
At Koira Psychology, the door is open whenever you feel ready to take a step, whether that’s today, next month, or sometime in the future. Support is available, as an option.
If you feel ready, Individual Therapy might be the support you are looking for.
